Unselfie with Friends

cover-unselfie-by-michele-borba-500x750It feels like a good time to think about empathy.

As an educator and a dad, I’ve found that the times I’m most impressed and inspired by kids is when I see in them kindness and caring and that quality that Shakespeare claimed was not strained, mercy.

With an eye toward encouraging our campus community to practice this kind of generosity of spirit and inspiring conversation about empathy amongst students, staff, and parents, our San Dieguito Book Club is scheduled to discuss Michele Borba’s book Unselfie on Monday, February 2, 2017.

In Unselfie Borba, an educational psychologist and prolific author, sets out to demonstrate that “empathy -rather than being a nice ‘add-on’ to our kids’ development- is in fact integral to their current and future success, happiness, and well-being.” To do so, she outlines nine “essential habits” that she suggests parents and educators can cultivate in their kids and in themselves.

As with all the books we’ve read in our book club, Unselfie is a great starting point for discussion. Do we need to agree with her blueprint for “cultivating” empathy? No, though much of what she writes resonates with me and compliments who we are at San Dieguito.

The strength of Unselfie is its clear argument for, and outline how, empathy matters, and how we might understand the difference it makes to be a part of an empathetic society.

I’ll put together another post soon with a few more tangible observations about Borba’s book, but with Winter Break upon us, a great time to find a chair, a cup of tea, and a book to read, I wanted to be sure that anyone in our Mustang family who enjoys good conversation has a chance to get started on what looks like it might be a great book to talk about.


The San Dieguito Book Club meets on Monday, February 2, 2017 from 6:00-8:00 pm in our Media Center. Feel free to join us to talk about Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World.

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